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Prayer for Marriage

Feb 25, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on Prayer for Marriage

The Power of A Praying Husband!

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“Until Death Do Us Part”

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Marriage & $$$$

Feb 23, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on Marriage & $$$$

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“Sex & Women” Talk Show

Feb 22, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on “Sex & Women” Talk Show

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Marriage Prayer Broadcast

Feb 18, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on Marriage Prayer Broadcast

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“What is Your Mistress?”

We All Have One, Listen to this Broadcast & Find Out!

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The Divorce-Proof & Remarriage Series (Pt.2)

Feb 17, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on The Divorce-Proof & Remarriage Series (Pt.2)

Divorce is Like A Death…

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“So What Are You Doing to Make Your Marriage Stay Alive?”

 By: Evang. Tashara Luster

There is no such thing as a NO FAULT DIVORCE! Everyone has a role and a fault in a divorce. No one is a perfect spouse. We are imperfect people who marry other imperfect people, but still hope for a Fairytale! It takes love, work, dedication, commitment, trust, faith, and especially forgiveness to stay married and to have a great marriage.

 

In the natural, if you were diagnosed with an incurable disease, or some other curable infirmity, you would do whatever it takes to stay alive. You would change your diet, exercise, get surgery, take medication, and do whatever therapy just to extend your life and the quality of it.

 

So why is that when our marriages go through a diseased state we only want to get a divorce (a death) and not fight for it to live? It takes power to live and it takes nothing to file for divorce and just let the marriage die. Today, choose life over death as it relates to your marriage.

 

Some file for Divorce (DEATH) and say it is because of Irreconcilable Differences. This is the common reason people use to get a divorce. You are going to have Irreconcilable Differences in marriage, but that does not mean you have to have a Divorce (Death). If you entered into your marriage and thought you would not have Irreconcilable Differences then you set yourself up for a fantasy that will never happen.

 

You and your spouse are two totally different people: man and woman, different backgrounds, and upbringings, different desires, etc… Your differences don’t have to make your marriage Irreconcilable! You can reconcile and embrace the differences that you have and find a place of agreement. Have good decision making in your marriage that is not selfish, but marriage-centered!

 

Bad Emotional Responses to the Issues of Your Marriage Can Compromise Good Decision Making!
 
How to Have A Marriage & Not A Divorce. First, Change Your Marital Diet! Remove all the unhealthy words, processed emotions, saturated arguments, artificial affection, and empty calories of non-quality time. The same way you RESET your body when you have decided to change your lifestyle and eat right and exercise, is the exact same thing you have to do for your marriage.

 

HIT THE RESET BUTTON ON YOUR MARRIAGE!

 

Don’t Shutdown your marriage through a Divorce (Death), but RESTART (Reset) your marriage. You have to clear the history and forgive in order to restart/reset your marriage. You have to let go of the past, the hurts, and the pains and press towards the intimacy of your marriage.

 

Stop Looking at your Future of your marriage in light of your past!  The light of your past is not enough to shine forth or illuminate the future of your marriage.  Trust God for enough light for where you are, and for the step you are on in your marriage.  Make up in your mind that you are going to outlive what you are going through in your marriage.

 

“RESTART, BUT DON’T SHUTDOWN!”

 

The word restart means to commence, begin, to move suddenly, to get into motion, originate, introduce and to establish.  It is also a place or time of beginning and it even means to make a noise.

 

The word shutdown means to cease, to halt, to block, to confine, to prevent, to keep away, to stop the flow of, and to be silent.  It is okay to restart, it is okay to begin, move suddenly, get into motion, and establish your marriage again.  You owe it to yourself after all you have been through to restart in every area of your life, especially your marriage.  However, it is not okay for you to stop living and shutdown and divorce (cause a death to your marriage).  Do not stop, halt, cease, block, or keep away your blessings, future, or the happiness that is to come into the life of your marriage, despite what has already happened.

 

Don’t Breakdown, but Breakthrough. It is time for you to Pursue, Overtake, and Recover All in your marriage.  Don’t look for the easy way out, but work hard for that which is within your marriage! Restart means to make a noise, but shutdown means to be silent.  Restart your marriage!  Make some noise about your marriage, don’t be silent and allow a divorce to happen!  Don’t shutdown and lose your marriage by being silent about it.

 

The word breakdown means the act or process of failing to function or continue.  When you breakdown, you submit yourself to failure in your marriage, which is a divorce.  Crying is not a breakdown, but giving up when you know God still has you in the fight is a Breakdown in your marriage!  You don’t have a breakdown until you give up on God and your marriage.  When you want to give up on life, marriage, family, ministry, friends, and God, then you are at a point of having a Breakdown!  Don’t ever give up on God and your marriage, no matter what you are going through.

 

The word Breakthrough means an act of overcoming or penetrating an obstacle or restriction. Sometimes on your road to recovery and breakthrough in your marriage, you will have to encourage yourself in the Lord.  There will be times in your life when everyone seems to be against you and you will have to rely solely on God for strength so that your marriage can survive and thrive.  Divorce is not stronger than your Marriage. Let’s make the choice of divorce weak today, and make it not an option for our marriages.

 

Breakthrough, Pursue, & Recover All in Your Marriage!

 

*Please note that if you are in a violent or domestically abusive relationship rather physical, emotional, or verbal you do need to separate and get help!*

 

 

 

The Divorce Proof & Remarriage Series…

Feb 16, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on The Divorce Proof & Remarriage Series…

Divorce & Remarriage

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– Pastor Tina R. McCrea

 

Matthew 19:7-10 (NLT)

 

“Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?” they asked.

 

Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.”

 

Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!”

 

 

 

Divorce

 

I’ve been divorced before and when I describe the feeling that comes with it I describe it in this manner.  Imagine yourself driving along the highway of life at a steady pace on a sunny day, the window is down, you are leaning with your elbow slightly out of the window. You hit a few bumps in the road yet you are still moving forward.  Suddenly someone comes along from the opposite direction and snatches your arm off!  The shock, trauma, and pain is unimaginable and so unexpected.  It doesn’t matter who is at fault it just hurts!  That’s what happens when two people become one in body, soul, and spirit then get a divorce.  It’s why oneness in relationships is reserved for marriage because those souls were meant to be tied until death.

 

Nevertheless, divorce happens for whatever reason.  As a pastor, I do not promote divorce.  On the other hand, I never encourage people to stay in marriages that are abusive in any way.  Seek godly counsel today so that you can be enlightened and empowered to be free.

 

How Did I Get Here?

 

We have all read or heard several statistics regarding divorce.  But what is actually the root cause according to the scriptures.  Jesus said in Matthew 19:8 that it was because of the hardness of the heart.  Bitterness.  When we have unresolved conflict, self-centeredness, wrath, resentment, jealousy, fault-finding, etc. in our relationships the end result is going to be a hardened heart — bitterness.  Jesus said, that this was not what the Heavenly Father originally intended.  We know this because it wasn’t what you or I intended when we said I do at that altar.  Right?  So now what?  You may be saying, “Okay Pastor Tina, I can understand how I got here and I have feelings of grief, regret, anger, loneliness what do I do?”

 

After Jesus defined marriage and the power of oneness the religious folk who hated him were still trying to trap him by asking him about divorce.  He gives us a hard saying in Matthew 19:9 regarding divorce because he says unless your marriage ends due to fornication or infidelity in the marriage then you will be guilty of adultery if you remarry.  This would rule out irreconcilable (impossible to reconcile, adjust, compromise, collaborate, or harmonize) differences.  Irreconcilable differences when you look at the definition of the word boils down to self-centeredness.  These things can be worked out through godly counseling and allowing Christ to be the center of your choices, decision making, and communication style.  My first marriage ended due to domestic violence and adultery but what I have come to realize is that however marriages end the pain is similar to a death.  Both people tend to deal with the grief/regret of the loss and if children are involved the pain is magnified.

 

Healing & Moving Forward

 

Healing is on the horizon if you are relating to what I am saying about the pan of divorce.  The first step to healing is to accept that the divorce has occurred.  Then decide to seek professional or godly counseling. Notice I did not harp on godly counseling here because you may use that as an excuse not to move forward.  I used my Employee Assistance Program (EAP).  The guy wasn’t a Christian but he did relate to my Christian views and helped me with the next point that I am about to make.  Set new boundaries. Notice how the disciples responded to Jesus’ hard saying about divorce, “Shoot!  It’s better not to get married then!”  That was my paraphrasing but essentially what they were saying is, “I had better count up the cost before saying I-DO.”  Take the time to ask hard questions of yourself to discover how you got into the situation, what role, if any, did you have to play in the separation, how will you do things differently should you decide to remarry, establish healthy boundaries to give yourself permission to say to the next person during the dating phase, “This is where I draw the line or this is where you end and I begin (Anne Katherine, Boundaries Where You End and I Begin). 

 

 

Psalm 103:12-13

 

He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.

 

The LORD is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him.

 

 

1 John 1:9

 

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

 

You’ve spent enough time telling God about what our spouse did to you now it’s time to ask your Heavenly Father to forgive you.  Repent. That is make up your mind to do what is right in future relationships and dating. Forgive yourself. Do not continue to rehearse the breakup and curse yourself for what happened.  Release the past into the sea of forgetfulness and the Father’s hands where he can handle it better than you.   Taking the steps that I have outlined will raise your level of awareness so that when you meet someone just like the person that you divorced you will recognize it, hear and obey the voice of Holy Spirit rather than yielding to your emotions or natural tendencies.  I’m so excited because I have lived what I am telling you!  Try it!  The liberation will blow your mind! 

 

Remarriage

When I told one of my minister buddies that I thought Elder Gary was going to ask me to enter a courtship with him and I was anxious about it the gentleman said this to me, “You know you have been healed from a previous hurt when you are willing to be vulnerable in that same area again.”  Hmmm.  I thought, was I ready to do that and how would I know if I was ready.  Sure enough Elder Gary did ask me to enter a courtship with him and I agreed but the road was not easy at first.  I had to acknowledge that he was not my former husband.  He often times had to remind me of that.  We sought godly counsel and attended sessions that made us answer hard questions and our bishop suggest that we read a book together titled, “Before You Say I Do by H. Norma Wright & Wes Roberts”.  

We would hold ourselves accountable to reading a chapter of that book before or during a date.  This meant that a movie theater was not always a part of our date night.  We avoided passion pits by going on group dates.  We spent a lot of time in prayer and we fasted at time too.  Reading that book helped us talk about and attending counseling sessions helped us to managed unrealistic expectations, uncover areas that still needed to be healed from my past and if you have children from a previous marriage you will need help with the process of creating a blended family.  Accept early on that creating a blended family is a process that requires a lot of communication not just with you and your future spouse but the children must be a part of that conversation as you set boundaries and relational guidelines.

Eyes Wide Open

What I have shared with you does not guaranteed that you will not have challenges if you decide to remarry but it does ensure that you have both eyes wide open, count up the cost of having to say what I did rather because you value the words, “I-DO” so much more.  Consider marriage as an investment of a lifetime.  We spend a lot of time, consideration, and even seek the counsel of friends and inspectors before we say I-DO to a brand new car or house investment.  Take those same measures when it comes to marriage.

 

 

 

Divorced persons once healed by the power of Christ can become friends again, set new boundaries, and may in some cases re-marry.

 

Prayer

Father help the person who reads or hears this broadcast to let go of all bitterness, your indignation, wrath, and resentment that surrounding the result of their divorce. Your words says you heal the broken hearted and binds up all of their wounds.  Lord, I’m asking you to destroy and break every chain of bondage.  Restore emotional healing by your grace today! Thank you for setting wise counselors in their path and let them hear and obey the voice of Holy Spirit as he speaks to them and restores their soul.  Lord reveal to them the choice of a mate is not based upon emotions or feelings but the qualities YOU would have them look for in a mate.  Let them not become unequally yoked again by setting proper boundaries, allowing themselves and You the time needed to listen and discern the heart of the person they are dating, avoiding passion pits and future pain. Cause their thoughts to come in alignment with your will so that their plans will be established and succeed.

  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!

Men & SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feb 15, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on Men & SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By: Life-Coach Samuel Sheffield & Elder Gary McCrea

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!!!!!

Feb 14, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!!!!!

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!!!!!

 

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Hot Valentine Day Date Idea’s

  1. Book a hot reservation (at home).While cooking together might be something you do every day, there’s no reason it can’t be special. The twist: Devise a unique menu that you’ll make together every year on Valentine’s Day (think: all seafood, or an aphrodisiac theme). Start the tradition now and you’ll never have to worry about making last-minute plans in the future.
  2. Vamp it up. Buy yourself (or your girl) three new lingerie outfits in totally different styles — over-the-top, cutesy, and subtly sexy — and use your shopping spree as an excuse to suggest a pre-dinner fashion show. ‘Cause what guy won’t love his very own Victoria’s Secret fashion show and what girl won’t be touched that her man ventured into a lingerie shop to surprise her?
  3. Get the Zen treatment. Book a couples treatment at a local spa for Valentine’s evening. By the time you get home, you’ll be ultra-relaxed for some late-night fun.
  4. Channel your inner poet. Light some candles, pour a couple glasses of sparkling cider, and whip out those poetry primers you still have back in the day. Reading powerful verses together may open up the doors of communication and lead to an intense, um, connection.
  5. Give each other erotic massages. Make sure your hands are warm and you have plenty of massage oils on hand. Get naked and take turns giving each other rubdowns. If a happy ending is in order, so be it!
  6. Have a picnic indoors. Spread a blanket on the bed with fresh fruit, sparkling cider, chocolates, cheese slices, and  candle-light music to encourage between-the-sheets action.
  7. Get wet. Take a bubble bath or a shower together.
  8. Make it a double header(His Needs/Her Needs). You’ve got all day, so why not take in two events? Hate basketball and your main squeeze is addicted to it? Get tickets to a game. Despise musicals? Surprise your spouse with tickets to a show. Sucking it up just this once will win you major brownie points.
  9. Go Dancing  Schedule a date for a night of hot salsa dancing or take a couples dance class and pretend you are on Dancing With The Stars.
  10. Couple’s Painting Class. There are several places in the Metro Atlanta area that give evening classes for the grown & sexy.  Listen to jazz music, BYOB and your own picnic style meal.
  11. Go Ice Skating. If you own skates, gliding around at a public rink is often free. Bring a thermos of hot chocolate and marshmallows plus a sweet treat to share. Or plan to stop by a diner afterward to grab dessert and warm up.
  12. Create a VIP Club or Karaoke Club. Who needs a bar to dance? Load your iPod with sexy tunes, or pull out your laptop and pull up some of your favorite songs from when you were dating, and hook it up to the speakers in your pad. Bonus points for hanging a disco ball (find these cheap at stores like Walmart, Target, or your local party store) to get a club-like vibe.
  13. Laugh It Up. Go to a comedy club, release the tension of the day and laugh it up.
  14. Recreate your first V-Day together. Who said there’s no such thing as a do-over? Do it the same way you did back then. The only things you’ll miss are the nerves and overblown expectations.

 

 

Adapted from 50 Hot Valentine’s Day Date Night Ideas from THE NEST

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The Role of The Husband

Feb 13, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on The Role of The Husband

By: Life-Coach Samuel Sheffield & Elder Gary McCrea

 

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The 10 Commandments of Husbands

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The Power of A Praying Husband

Feb 11, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on The Power of A Praying Husband

 

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Listen to this Dynamic Prayer for Marriages by Life-Coach Samuel Sheffield!

Husbands it is time to stand up and pray for your wives & families!

You are the Priest & Leader of Your Home!

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