Marriage & Relationship Series

Feb 2, 2014   //   by Tina McCrea   //   Blog  //  Comments Off on Marriage & Relationship Series

What Is Marriage?


By: Pastor Tina R. McCrea


Matthew 19:4-6 (NLT)

Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.‘ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”


Imagine if you were the creator of a timeless, miraculous piece of art that cannot be duplicated.  To ensure that the world would understand your intent and purpose for the creation and use of this beautiful art you provided an artifact that protected and governed how the art is to be handled.  Years later a person comes along and designs a distorted replica of what you created, uses the same name as your priceless creation, redefines what you called it, and starts a campaign demanding that the documented governing standard you wrote that has been used for centuries be rewritten to include words they made up.  It sounds insane doesn’t it yet we have seen it happen right before our very eyes as it relates to Marriage and some people have agreed to it by voting yes to same-sex marriages.

Where Did It Begin?

The Messiah faced Pharisees during his day who challenged him on the subject of Marriage.  In His wisdom, Jesus pointed them back to the source and the beginning which was the Holy Scriptures and GOD.

According to the Holy Scriptures, Marriage was created by GOD for a man and a woman.  If He created Marriage, He certainly has the right to define its intent and its purpose and use in the owner’s manual (Darrell Huffman- No Longer Two But One). “Marriage is not a man-made idea so man cannot alter or govern it.” So if a person disagrees with how God intended for His creation to be used they should go to GOD.


A Holy Partnership God’s Way

Marriage between a man and a woman is a covenant union established by a man and a woman that reflects the image of GOD’s love.  It is a committed partnership that God designed and takes seriously thus His initial statement in Genesis 2:24 reiterated by the Messiah “…A man will leave is father and mother and cleave (adhere to, cling, be faithful to) his wife (a female partner in a marriage).  A man publically and legally promises to leave his parents faithfully dedicated himself to one woman as his wife.  Some marriages suffer right here because parents especially Mom for men seem to still have top priority in his life.  A man must show his wife that she is his priority and that his loyalty lies with her.  It may not be that your wife doesn’t like your Mom it may be that she doesn’t want to compete with your Mom.  If you have a free moment, think of how you can spend that time with your wife first before calling your parents or your friends.  I sense someone is battling with guilt and that is the reason they are having a hard time cleaving.  Let me help you.  Do you trust and believe that God created you?  Do you feel guilty for having ribs in your body?  No because GOD created you to need your ribs.  Consider your wife as your rib and there is no need to feel guilty about fully enjoying the gift GOD created for you — your wife, your marriage.  TRUST GOD that your parents will be okay without you for a day. You may need to repeat that out loud until you can receive it as truth.

It’s okay to enjoy, cleave to, and be vulnerable with your wife. Genesis 2:21-23

So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.

“At last!” the man exclaimed.

“This one is bone from my bone,

and flesh from my flesh!

She will be called ‘woman,’

because she was taken from ‘man.’”

This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.

Marriage was intended to be a gift from GOD to a man and a woman from the beginning of time. However leaving and cleaving does not give a wife the license to selfishly demand that her husband never spend time with his parents or even enjoy time with his hobbies or cultivating his personal goals.  Every relationship must have balance. Honoring GOD’s Word by honoring one another reflects his image.



Heavenly Father, thank you for the reminder of what your intent and purpose is for marriage.  Father, forgive us for taking the gift of marriage for granted in our personal relationships and in this world.  Help each person that reads this blog realize that you love them and desire that they enjoy life to the fullest in all areas.  Thank you Father for your forgiveness and for an opportunity today to start anew.  Jesus, let those who are living together unmarried make a decision to honor you and each other by seeking godly counsel and through prayer determine if marriage is the next step they should take or changing their life-style.  Let someone who is considering a same-sex marriage believe the Holy Scriptures and decide to allow the liberating power of Christ make them really and unquestionably free from the lie of Satan (John 8:36AMP).  In your precious name, Amen.


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